Is it normal to feel bad enjoying a day off when others are working?

Absolutely. It's very common to experience what's often called 'joy guilt' or 'leisure guilt' when you're relaxing while others are busy. This feeling often stems from a strong work ethic, a sense of responsibility, or even a societal pressure to always be productive. Many people find their mind drifting to others' workloads, even when they've earned their break.

Research from the University of California, Berkeley, suggests that a significant portion of the population experiences some form of leisure guilt, particularly in cultures that highly value industrio

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Am I the only one who feels bad enjoying a day off when others are working?

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Does everyone feel bad for enjoying a day off when others are working?

Does Everyone?

Is it weird to feel bad enjoying a day off when others are working?

Is It Weird?

Why do I feel bad enjoying a day off when others are working?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I feel guilty relaxing?▾
Guilt about relaxing often comes from ingrained beliefs about productivity, a strong sense of duty, or comparing your situation to others. Society often praises constant work, making leisure feel undeserved sometimes.
How can I stop feeling guilty on my days off?▾
To reduce guilt, remind yourself that rest is essential for long-term productivity and well-being. Focus on the positive aspects of your break and consider it an investment in your energy. Planning enjoyable activities can also help shift your focus.
Is it bad to compare my leisure time to others' work?▾
Comparing your leisure time to others' work schedules can certainly diminish your enjoyment and lead to unnecessary guilt. Everyone's circumstances and work-life balance are different, and focusing on your own needs is more beneficial.

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