Is it normal to pretend to be happy for someone's success when you feel jealous?

It's quite common to experience a mix of emotions when someone you know achieves something great, especially if you're also striving for similar goals. Feeling a pang of jealousy while still wanting to show support is a very human reaction. Many people find themselves smiling and offering congratulations even when a part of them feels a little envious, as it's often an automatic social response.

Research suggests that nearly 60% of adults admit to experiencing feelings of envy or jealousy towards a friend's success at some point.

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Am I the Only One?

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Does Everyone?

Is it weird to pretend to be happy for someone's success when you feel jealous?

Is It Weird?

Why do I pretend to be happy for someone's success when I feel jealous?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I feel jealous of a friend's achievements?▾
Jealousy often arises when we compare our own progress or desires to someone else's accomplishments, especially if we perceive them as having something we want for ourselves. It can stem from personal aspirations or a desire for similar recognition.
How can I genuinely feel happier for others' success?▾
Focusing on your own path and celebrating your small wins can help reduce comparison. Actively practicing gratitude for what you have and recognizing that someone else's success doesn't diminish your own can also shift your perspective over time.
What's the difference between jealousy and envy?▾
Jealousy typically involves a fear of losing something you have (like a friend's attention) to a rival, while envy is desiring something someone else has (like their success or possessions). Both are common emotional experiences.

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