I'm honestly just trying to figure out what the fuck is happening. Like, objectively. My dad, he's 62, retired teacher, right? And for the past, I don't know, six months maybe, his libido has just... vanished. Poof. Gone. And my mom, bless her heart, she's trying to be understanding, but she's also kind of… concerned. Not in an accusatory way, just like, "Is he okay? Is this normal?" And I keep telling her, yeah, probably, it's just aging, right? Like, bodies change. But then I'm doing my own research, because I'm the designated family researcher for everything from weird rashes to mortgage rates, and I'm reading all this stuff about typical age-related changes, and it's not quite aligning with what he's describing. He’s not just "less interested," he’s like, biologically unable. A complete and utter cessation. Which, in the literature, seems to suggest… something else. Something beyond just the natural decline. And the thing is, I'm trying to hold all this together for them, for my own kids who are like, under five and constantly demanding, for my job which is a fucking dumpster fire of deadlines and understaffing, and I just… I can't even begin to contextualize this for myself, let alone explain it to my mother without sounding like I'm diagnosing him with something catastrophic. It’s this weird disassociation, like I'm analyzing a case study rather than, you know, my actual father. The emotional component of it is just… not computing for me right now. I just need to understand the mechanism here, the etiology. Is it hormonal? A vascular issue? A neurological shift? Because if it’s just “getting older,” it feels like a very… rapid and complete conversion to a new physiological state, if that makes sense. It's just another variable in the constant equation of things I'm supposed to fix, or at least explain, while simultaneously failing to properly nourish my own children or respond to work emails or get more than four hours of interrupted sleep. The cognitive load is, frankly, unsustainable. And now this. Another data point to file, another potential "thing" to monitor and, I guess, strategize around, even though I'm genuinely at a loss for what the actual strategy would even be here. It’s like observing a complex system go into an unexpected failure state and being the only one with a half-broken manual. And no time to read it.

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