Home/Relationships & Family/Parentification/ThoughtI have spent forty-two years of my life making sure everyone else is fed, clean, and comfortable while I sat in the background and withered.parentificationsettling regretemotional numbnessShare this thoughtCopy linkShare on XDownload imageDoes this resonate with you?Share Your OwnBrowse MoreOthers have felt this tooI have spent forty years wiping chins and changing linens and nodding like a goddamn saint while my husband forgets my name. …secret family resentmentI spent forty goddamn years being the person everyone else needed me to be. …family obligation guiltI have spent forty-two years watching men break their backs for a paycheck, and I have come to realize that humans are essentially machines that refuse to admit they need oiling.burnout denialI guess I'm just… I don't know, MAD, that after all these years of making sure everyone else was okay, making sure the kids had clean clothes for school even when it was a blizzard and the bus was… …retirement identity crisisRelated ThemesEmpty Nest VoidFamily obligation guiltHidden relationship doubtsParenting insecuritiesSecret resentment toward family