Am I the only one who fakes enthusiasm for family gatherings?
Many people put on a brave face when attending family events, even when they'd rather be doing something else. It's a common social strategy to maintain harmony, especially when expectations are high for a "happy family" atmosphere. This can be particularly true when there are underlying tensions or a history of difficult interactions. You are not alone in feeling this way.
Research from social psychology suggests that a significant portion of individuals report experiencing emotional labor – the act of managing and feigning emotions – in various social settings, includi
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Why do I feel obligated to attend family events?▾
Obligation often stems from a desire to avoid conflict, maintain family ties, or uphold traditions. There might be unspoken expectations from other family members or a personal sense of duty that drives attendance, even when you'd prefer not to go.
How can I deal with difficult relatives at family gatherings?▾
Focus on short, pleasant interactions and have a few neutral topics ready for conversation. It can also help to have an exit strategy or a reason to step away for a moment if a conversation becomes uncomfortable. Limiting your time with particularly challenging individuals can also be effective.
Is it bad to dread family holidays?▾
It's not inherently bad to dread family holidays. Many people experience stress or anxiety around these times, often due to complex family dynamics, past experiences, or the pressure to create a perfect holiday. Your feelings are a natural response to your unique situation.
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