Is it weird to feel overlooked compared to your siblings?
Many people find themselves comparing their experiences and achievements to those of their brothers or sisters. It's a common human tendency to observe how we fit into our family dynamic, and sometimes that observation can lead to a feeling of being less seen or appreciated. This feeling often stems from a natural desire for recognition and love within the family unit.
Research indicates that a significant majority of adults, over 70%, report experiencing feelings of sibling rivalry or jealousy at some point in their lives.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I always compare myself to my siblings?▾
Comparing yourself to siblings is a very common behavior. It often comes from how we're raised, the focus our parents might have placed on certain achievements, or simply observing different paths within the family. It's not unusual to measure your own progress against those closest to you.
What if my parents show favoritism to one sibling?▾
Perceived favoritism from parents can be a deeply impactful experience. It can lead to feelings of resentment or a sense of being less valued. While parents often don't intend to show favoritism, their actions can sometimes be interpreted that way, leading to difficult emotions for other children.
How can I stop feeling jealous of my sibling's success?▾
Shifting focus from your sibling's success to your own strengths and accomplishments can be a helpful step. Recognizing that everyone has their own unique path and defining what success means for you, independent of others, can reduce feelings of jealousy. Celebrating your own wins, big or small, can also make a difference.
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