Is it weird to wonder if you'll regret not having kids later?

It's a very common thought to consider potential future feelings about major life decisions, especially one as significant as choosing not to have children. Many people who decide to be childfree still occasionally reflect on what their lives might be like with kids, or question if their current choice will bring future regret. This kind of introspection is a natural part of making and living with big life choices, and doesn't necessarily mean you're reconsidering your decision.

A 2016 study published in the journal 'Sex Roles' found that women who chose to be childfree reported similar levels of life satisfaction to those with children, with no significant difference in repo

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Am I the only one who wonders if I'll regret not having kids later?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone wonder if they'll regret not having kids later?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to wonder if you'll regret not having kids later?

Is It Normal?

Why do I worry about regretting not having kids later?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Do childfree people regret their decision?▾
Research suggests that while some childfree individuals may occasionally ponder 'what if' scenarios, actual deep regret for not having children is not common among those who actively chose a childfree life. Most express high satisfaction with their decision.
How do I know if I'll regret not having children?▾
There's no definitive way to predict future feelings, but reflecting on your core reasons for being childfree, your current life satisfaction, and what truly brings you fulfillment can offer insight. It's a choice based on your present values and desires.
Is it normal to doubt my childfree choice sometimes?▾
Yes, it is completely normal to have moments of doubt or introspection about any major life decision, including being childfree. These thoughts are part of processing a significant choice and don't necessarily indicate a desire to change your path.

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