I am watching my mother stare at her reflection in the dark screen of her iPhone 14 and she looks like she is mourning a dead person but the person is just herself from twenty years ago. She is sixty-two and divorced and trying to make a SilverSingles profile because my cousins keep telling her she is too young to be a widow who isn't actually a widow but a failure in the eyes of the parish. She has this photo from my wedding where her collarbones are sharp and her skin is tight but she refuses to upload it because she says it is a lie and she is terrified that some man will see her in person and feel defrauded. Is that a rational fear?