Home/Thoughts & Fears/Failure fears/ThoughtI’ve spent forty years building systems that don’t fail, but I can’t handle a simple conversation about where we’re going to live next year.failure fearssettling regretcareer path regretShare this thoughtCopy linkShare on XDownload imageDoes this resonate with you?Share Your OwnBrowse MoreOthers have felt this tooI feel like I’m failing some kind of major life audit and I don’t even know how to fix the ledger, you know? …achievement emptinessI spent the last forty-eight hours sitting in my home office—the one my parents helped me paint eggshell white so it looked professional—working on that big redesign for someone at the firm. …social exhaustionI have spent forty years wiping chins and changing linens and nodding like a goddamn saint while my husband forgets my name. …secret family resentmentAnd I’m up there, doing my bit, talking about the microservices, the API gateways, all the jargon, and everyone’s nodding, seems impressed. …aging fearsRelated ThemesIntrusive thoughtsMortality anxietySuccess fears