You know that feeling when you realize something... important, I guess, is just slowly disappearing? Like, not in a dramatic way, no big explosion or anything, just kinda… fading out. It’s a weird kind of observation. My grandpa, he’s 78 now, and he’s always had this card game. Every Wednesday night, for as long as I can remember. Like, since before I was even born, probably. It was a whole thing. They’d rotate houses, my grandma would make snacks when it was their turn (before she passed, obviously). It was just… a fixture. Part of the landscape, you know? Like the big oak tree at the end of our street that’s always just… there.
But lately, I’ve been noticing. He used to talk about it all the time, who won what, who said what silly thing. Now… not so much. I asked him last week, super casually, like “Hey, still crushing it at cards?” And he kinda just shrugged. He said, “Well, John’s in the hospital again. And Frank… Frank passed a few months back, remember?” And yeah, I remembered Frank. It was sad. But then he kept going, “And Bill, his wife won’t let him drive at night anymore. His eyesight, I guess.” He didn’t say it like he was upset, not really. More like he was just… stating facts. Like a report. The way you’d tell someone the forecast.
It’s just… it's like watching a picture slowly lose its color. Or like a path in the woods that fewer and fewer people walk, so the grass starts to grow over it. It’s still technically a path, but it’s not really *used* anymore. He’s still going, sometimes, but it’s not the same. It’s not a full table. And he doesn’t have other big things, not really. He drives to the grocery store, watches TV… sometimes he’ll call my dad. (They play golf sometimes, but that’s different, you know?) It’s just… you realize how much of a person’s day, their week, is built around these small, consistent things. And when those things just… stop being consistent, or stop being altogether… what fills that space? It’s not like you can just order a new card game online. It’s just… a void, I guess. It’s just interesting to observe.
Share this thought
Does this resonate with you?