Why do I feel sick after seeing everyone else's perfect lives?

Comparing yourself to seemingly flawless online portrayals often triggers feelings of inadequacy and distress. What you're experiencing is a common response to curated content that rarely reflects the full reality of anyone's life. This constant exposure can create a skewed perception, making your own circumstances feel insufficient by comparison.

Research from the University of Pennsylvania suggests a causal link between time spent on social media and increased feelings of loneliness and depression.

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Am I the only one who feels sick after seeing everyone else's perfect lives?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone feel sick after seeing everyone else's perfect lives?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to feel sick after seeing everyone else's perfect lives?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to feel sick after seeing everyone else's perfect lives?

Is It Weird?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why does social media make me feel so bad about myself?▾
Social media platforms often present highly selective and idealized versions of reality. This constant exposure to seemingly perfect moments, achievements, and appearances can lead to feelings of envy, self-doubt, and the belief that your own life falls short.
How can I stop comparing my life to others on Instagram?▾
Consider limiting your time on platforms that consistently make you feel worse. Refocus your attention on your own progress and genuine connections. Remember that what you see online is a highlight reel, not a full documentary of someone's struggles or everyday life.
Is it normal to feel jealous of other people's success?▾
It's a very human experience to feel a pang of jealousy when observing others' successes, especially when you're striving for similar goals. The key is how you respond to that feeling – whether it motivates you or leads to prolonged distress.

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