Am I the only one who dreads checking unread messages after a busy day?
That feeling of a growing inbox or message count can be genuinely overwhelming, especially after you've already expended so much energy. It's a common reaction to a perceived increase in demands on your time and attention, even if those messages are from loved ones. Many people find themselves postponing checking messages, needing a mental buffer before engaging further.
Research from the University of California, Irvine, suggests that constant connectivity and the expectation of immediate responses contribute significantly to feelings of stress and burnout in adults.
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Why do I feel overwhelmed by unread messages?▾
The sheer volume of unread messages can feel like an additional task added to an already full mental load. Each message represents potential new information, requests, or social obligations, which can be draining to contemplate when you're already tired.
Is it normal to avoid social media after work?▾
Yes, it's very common to want a break from social interaction, even digital, after a demanding workday. Our social energy can deplete, and logging onto social media often requires more of that energy, leading many to avoid it until they've recharged.
How can I manage message overload without feeling guilty?▾
Consider setting specific times to check messages, rather than feeling like you need to respond instantly. Communicating to close contacts that you respond at certain intervals can also help manage expectations and reduce your own pressure.
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