Why do I dread checking unread messages after a busy day?

Feeling overwhelmed by unread messages after a long day is a common experience. Your brain is likely trying to conserve energy and avoid additional cognitive load, anticipating more demands on your attention. This reluctance often stems from a natural desire to protect your limited mental resources after a period of intense activity.

Research from the University of California, Irvine, suggests that constantly checking emails and messages contributes to higher stress levels and a reduced sense of well-being.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do messages feel like a burden when I'm tired?▾
When you're tired, your brain has less capacity to handle new information or social demands. Each message represents a potential task, decision, or emotional response, which can feel overwhelming when your energy reserves are low.
Is it normal to feel overwhelmed by communication?▾
Yes, it's very normal. In a world of constant digital communication, many people experience 'communication overload.' Our brains aren't always equipped to continuously switch contexts and respond to a high volume of messages without feeling depleted.
How can I make checking messages less stressful?▾
Try setting aside a specific, limited time to check messages, rather than letting it linger. You might also prioritize who you respond to immediately and allow yourself to delay non-urgent replies until you feel more refreshed.

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