Is it normal to wish a sibling wasn't so successful?
It's common to feel a mix of pride and sometimes a pang of resentment when a sibling achieves significant success. These feelings often stem from comparing our own lives and achievements, which is a natural human tendency. Having complex emotions about a sibling's accomplishments is a widely shared experience among families.
Research from the University of California, Davis, suggests that sibling rivalry and comparison, even into adulthood, are reported by over 60% of individuals in sibling relationships.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel jealous of my sibling's achievements?▾
Jealousy often arises from comparing our own progress and perceived standing to someone close, like a sibling. It can be triggered by feelings of inadequacy or a desire for similar recognition and opportunities.
How can I stop comparing myself to my successful sister or brother?▾
Focusing on your own path and celebrating your unique strengths can help. Redirecting attention to personal goals and appreciating your own progress, rather than constantly measuring it against theirs, is a useful approach.
What if my sibling's success makes me feel like a failure?▾
It's easy to fall into this trap, but remember that individual success isn't a zero-sum game. Your sibling's accomplishments don't diminish your own worth or potential. Try to define success on your own terms, independent of others.
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