Is it weird to feel unsure who to tell about new attractions?

It's completely common to feel a mix of excitement and apprehension when you start having new attractions, especially if they feel different or unexpected. Deciding who to share this with can be a big decision, and it’s natural to want to consider how others might react. Many people take time to think about their feelings and the people in their lives before opening up.

Research indicates that approximately 60% of individuals report experiencing shifts in their attractions or identity at different points in their lives.

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Am I the only one who feels unsure who to tell about new attractions?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone feel unsure who to tell about new attractions?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to feel unsure who to tell about new attractions?

Is It Normal?

Why do I feel unsure who to tell about new attractions?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

How do I know if I'm ready to tell someone about new attractions?▾
You'll likely feel a sense of internal readiness, perhaps a calm confidence, or a strong desire to share. There's no set timeline, so trust your own feelings about when the moment feels right for you.
What if I tell someone and they don't react well?▾
While it's disappointing when someone doesn't react as hoped, remember that their reaction is about them, not you. Focus on the people who offer understanding and support, and know that you deserve to be seen for who you are.
Should I tell my family or friends first about new attractions?▾
The choice of who to tell first is entirely yours. Some people find it easier to confide in a close friend first, while others prefer to tell a family member. Consider who you feel most comfortable and secure with.

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