Is it weird to wonder if you should have tried harder in college?

Many people reflect on their past decisions, especially significant ones like college. It's a natural part of evaluating life choices and imagining alternative paths. These thoughts often arise when facing new challenges or comparing one's current situation to perceived opportunities. It's a common human experience to look back and consider 'what if' scenarios.

A 2018 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that regret about education is one of the most commonly reported life regrets among adults.

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<h1>Am I the only one who wonders if I should have tried harder in college?</h1>

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone wonder if they should have tried harder in college?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to wonder if you should have tried harder in college?

Is It Normal?

Why do I wonder if I should have tried harder in college?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I keep thinking about my college performance?▾
These thoughts often surface when you're at a crossroads, feeling stuck, or seeing peers achieve different milestones. It's your mind's way of re-evaluating past choices in light of current circumstances, trying to make sense of where you are now.
What if I regret not studying more in college?▾
Regret, while uncomfortable, can be a sign that you value hard work and ambition. It's a feeling that many people experience about various life stages. Instead of dwelling, consider what lessons you can draw from that feeling for your present and future actions.
Does everyone feel like they could have done better in college?▾
While not everyone feels it to the same degree, a significant number of individuals look back on their college years with some degree of 'could have, should have' thinking. It's a common sentiment, particularly when reflecting on a period of intense learning and personal development.

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