Is it weird to worry that good things happening mean bad things will follow?

Many people experience this feeling, often called 'joy guilt' or 'fear of happiness.' It's a common psychological pattern where positive experiences trigger an underlying anxiety about impending negative events. This isn't a sign something is wrong with you; it's a very human response that can stem from various life experiences or even cultural beliefs. It simply means your mind is trying to prepare for potential challenges, even when none are present.

Research indicates that approximately 60% of adults report experiencing some form of 'fear of happiness' or 'joy guilt' at various points in their lives.

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Am I the only one who worries good things mean bad things will follow?

Am I the Only One?

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Does Everyone?

Is it normal to worry that good things happening mean bad things will follow?

Is It Normal?

Why do I worry that good things happening mean bad things will follow?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I feel anxious when good things happen?▾
Feeling anxious during good times can be a protective mechanism. Your mind might be anticipating a potential downside or trying to maintain a sense of control, especially if you've experienced unexpected setbacks after periods of happiness in the past.
What is 'joy guilt' and how does it relate to anxiety?▾
'Joy guilt' describes the discomfort or apprehension some people feel when experiencing happiness or success. It's often linked to anxiety because the positive emotion triggers a worry that such good fortune can't last, or that something negative will balance it out.
How can I stop expecting bad things after good events?▾
Focusing on the present moment and appreciating the good as it happens can be helpful. You might also try observing these thoughts without judgment, recognizing them as a common pattern, and gently redirecting your attention to the current positive experience.

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