Losing Friends to Time: You're Not the Only One

Watching your circle shrink as friends drift away, move on, or die

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Just retired last year, after forty years in the same damn office, same damn desk, you know? …

aging friendship loss

It’s a specific kind of dread, you know? …

aging friendship loss

I’m sitting here in the dark, the blue glow of this screen painting lines on my face. …

aging friendship loss

pretend to be a veteran too. …

aging friendship loss

And I feel guilty even thinking it. …

aging friendship loss

I just spent another Tuesday night staring at the ceiling, the streetlights outside casting long, skeletal shadows across the room, mimicking the way I feel most nights. …

aging friendship loss

A pang of guilt, maybe, for not being there, for not carrying the torch. …

aging friendship loss

i'm kinda worried about my neighbor mr henderson. …

aging friendship loss

And then my best friend, the person who REALLY gets me, got this amazing job offer across the country. …

aging friendship loss

Am I the only one who feels like they’ve just… lost everyone? …

aging friendship loss

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These thoughts and feelings are more common than most people realize. By sharing anonymously, people often discover that what felt uniquely shameful is actually a shared human experience.
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