Home/Relationships & Family/Toxic loyalty/ThoughtI’ve spent forty years making excuses for Arthur and honestly... I’m good at it.toxic loyaltyfamily obligation guiltShare this thoughtCopy linkShare on XDownload imageDoes this resonate with you?Share Your OwnBrowse MoreOthers have felt this tooI have spent forty years wiping chins and changing linens and nodding like a goddamn saint while my husband forgets my name. …secret family resentmentI’ve spent seventy years on this planet and I’m just now realizing that humans are remarkably good at lying to themselves when there’s enough money on the table. …career path regretThis was decades ago, back when I was just a kid in my first real design job, and my creative director—let's call him Arthur—was just... …workplace pretenseI’ve spent forty years building systems that don’t fail, but I can’t handle a simple conversation about where we’re going to live next year.failure fearsRelated ThemesEmpty Nest VoidFamily obligation guiltHidden relationship doubtsParentificationParenting insecurities