Am I the only one who resents my younger sibling's easier life?
It's common for older siblings to feel a pang of jealousy or even resentment when they perceive their younger siblings had an easier upbringing or current circumstances. This often stems from comparing their own experiences, perhaps feeling they paved the way or faced stricter rules, to what seems like a smoother path for their sibling. These feelings, while uncomfortable, are a natural part of complex family dynamics.
Research suggests that over 60% of adults admit to comparing their achievements and life circumstances to those of their siblings at some point.
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Why do older siblings often feel they had it harder?▾
Older siblings often feel they faced more pressure or stricter rules because parents are typically learning and establishing parenting styles with their first child. By the time younger siblings arrive, parents might be more relaxed or experienced, leading to a perceived difference in upbringing.
Is it normal to compare my life to my sibling's?▾
Yes, comparing ourselves to others, especially family members, is a very common human tendency. Siblings are a natural point of comparison because you share a similar upbringing and context, making it easy to notice perceived differences in opportunities or challenges.
What if my younger sibling actually had a harder time?▾
It's possible that while you perceive their life as easier, your younger sibling faced different challenges that were less visible to you. Everyone's experience is unique, and what appears effortless from the outside might involve its own struggles.
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