Am I the only one who secretly avoids calls from family members?
Many people find themselves hesitant to answer calls from relatives, even when they care deeply about them. This feeling often stems from a need for personal space, a desire to manage energy, or simply a wish to control the timing of interactions. It's a common experience to feel a slight dread when the phone rings and you see a family member's name pop up, even if you plan to call them back later.
Research from the University of California, Berkeley, suggests that over 60% of adults report feeling overwhelmed by social obligations, including family communication, at various points in their live
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel guilty ignoring family calls?▾
Guilt often arises from societal expectations about family connection and a desire to be a good relative. Even when you have valid reasons for not answering, the feeling of letting someone down can be strong because you care about their feelings.
Is it bad to screen calls from my parents?▾
Screening calls isn't inherently bad; it can be a practical way to manage your time and energy. It allows you to decide when you're best equipped for a conversation, rather than feeling obligated to respond immediately, which can lead to more meaningful interactions later.
How can I reduce anxiety about family phone calls?▾
Consider setting specific times you're available for calls or letting family know you'll call them back when you're free. Establishing a predictable routine can help reduce the pressure of unexpected calls and make the interactions feel more manageable and less anxiety-provoking.
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