Is it normal to secretly resent family and avoid their calls?
Many people find themselves in situations where they feel a quiet frustration towards family members, sometimes leading them to let calls go to voicemail. This doesn't mean you don't care about them, but rather that you might need space or feel overwhelmed by certain interactions. It's a common human response to seek distance when relationships become draining or complicated, even with those we love.
Research indicates that approximately 60% of adults report feeling overwhelmed by family obligations at various points in their lives, leading some to seek temporary distance.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel guilty for not answering my family's calls?▾
Guilt often stems from societal expectations about family closeness or a desire to avoid hurting feelings. It's a natural emotional response when your actions don't align with what you feel you 'should' be doing, even if those actions are necessary for your well-being.
How can I reduce the number of calls from persistent family members?▾
Consider setting clear, gentle expectations about when you're available to talk. You could try responding with a text that says, 'Busy right now, can I call you back later today?' or 'I'll be free to chat on [specific day/time].' This manages their expectations without cutting them off entirely.
What if avoiding calls makes family interactions worse?▾
Sometimes a temporary avoidance can escalate tension. If you're consistently avoiding calls, it might be helpful to prepare for a brief, direct conversation about needing a bit more personal time. A short, honest explanation can sometimes prevent bigger misunderstandings down the line.
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