Does everyone avoid talking about the person who died?
Many people find themselves hesitant to bring up the person who has passed away, even years later. This often stems from a desire to protect others from pain, or perhaps a fear of upsetting themselves. While it's a common reaction, it doesn't mean everyone experiences this, nor that it's the only way to cope.
Research suggests that a significant number of bereaved individuals report feeling that others avoid mentioning their deceased loved one, sometimes making their grief feel more solitary.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do people stop mentioning someone after they die?▾
People often stop mentioning someone who died out of a protective instinct, not wanting to upset themselves or others. There can also be an unspoken fear of bringing up difficult memories or making others uncomfortable.
What happens when you don't talk about a deceased loved one?▾
Not talking about a deceased loved one can sometimes make it harder to integrate their memory into your life moving forward. It might also leave you feeling isolated in your grief, as opportunities for shared remembrance are missed.
How can I encourage others to talk about someone who passed?▾
You can encourage conversation by gently sharing a positive memory or asking a specific, open-ended question about the person. For example, 'I was just thinking about [name] and that time they [memory] – what do you remember about that?'
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