Does everyone dread family gatherings because of chores?

Many people feel a sense of obligation or even dread around family gatherings due to the expectation of doing chores. This isn't an uncommon experience, especially when responsibilities fall unevenly or feel like an imposition rather than a shared contribution. The anticipation of these tasks can sometimes overshadow the joy of connecting with relatives.

Research from the University of Michigan suggests that uneven division of household labor is a significant source of conflict in many relationships, extending to family gatherings.

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Am I the only one who dreads family gatherings because of chores?

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Is it normal to dread family gatherings because of chore expectations?

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Is it weird to dread family gatherings because of chore expectations?

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Why do I dread family gatherings because of chores?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I feel obligated to do chores at family events?▾
Feeling obligated often stems from established family roles, a desire to be helpful, or a fear of judgment if you don't contribute. These patterns can be deeply ingrained over many years.
How can I reduce chore stress at family get-togethers?▾
Consider offering to help with specific tasks in advance, or suggest a rotating chore schedule if appropriate for your family. Sometimes, simply communicating your availability or limitations can make a difference.
Is it normal to resent doing all the work at family events?▾
Yes, it's very common to feel resentment if you consistently bear the brunt of the work during family gatherings. This feeling often arises when efforts aren't equally shared or appreciated by others.

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