Is it weird to dread family gatherings because of chore expectations?
Many people feel a sense of apprehension when family events approach, particularly if they anticipate being saddled with a disproportionate share of the work. It's common to want to enjoy time with loved ones without the added stress of feeling like unpaid help. This feeling often stems from past experiences where the burden wasn't evenly distributed.
A survey by Pew Research Center found that unequal distribution of household chores is a significant source of tension in many family dynamics.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How can I avoid always doing the most chores at family events?▾
Consider offering to bring a specific dish or item that takes up your time, or arriving a little later to avoid the initial setup rush. You can also politely suggest a rotating chore schedule for shared tasks before the event.
What if my family expects me to do everything when I visit?▾
Before your next visit, have a conversation about how you'd like to contribute in a way that allows you to also relax and enjoy the time. Propose specific ways you can help that feel manageable and fair to you.
Is it rude to say no to helping with chores at a family gathering?▾
It's not inherently rude to decline a specific chore if you've already contributed or have another reason. The key is how you communicate it. A polite 'I'm happy to help with X, but I won't be able to do Y today' is often well-received.
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