Does everyone worry about accidentally hurting someone they love?

Many people experience intrusive thoughts about accidentally harming loved ones. These are often disturbing, unwanted thoughts that pop into your mind without warning. It's a common experience for those who care deeply, reflecting a strong desire to protect rather than any actual intent to cause harm. These thoughts are typically ego-dystonic, meaning they clash with your true values and character.

Research indicates that approximately 80% of the general population experiences intrusive thoughts at some point, with varying content including harm-related scenarios.

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Am I the only one who worries about accidentally hurting someone I love?

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Is it normal to worry about accidentally hurting someone you love?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to worry about accidentally hurting someone you love?

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Why do I worry about accidentally hurting someone I love?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Are intrusive thoughts about harming others normal?▾
Yes, it's quite common for people to have intrusive thoughts, including those that involve accidentally harming others. These thoughts are often a sign of deep care and concern, not an actual desire to hurt someone.
Why do I keep thinking I'll hurt my family by accident?▾
Thoughts about accidentally hurting family members can arise from a strong sense of responsibility and love. Your mind might be hyper-vigilant about potential dangers because you care so much, leading to unwanted scenarios playing out in your head.
What if I can't stop thinking about harming someone I love?▾
If you're struggling with persistent, distressing thoughts about harming a loved one, it's helpful to remember these are typically just thoughts and not intentions. Focusing on your actions and how you treat those you care about can often provide reassurance.

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