Is it weird to worry about accidentally hurting someone you love?

No, it's not weird. Many people experience intrusive thoughts about unintentionally harming loved ones. These are often a sign of how much you care and how important their well-being is to you. The fear itself demonstrates your love and protective instincts, not any actual desire to cause harm.

Research indicates that approximately 80% of adults report experiencing unwanted intrusive thoughts, with themes of harm being common among them.

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Am I the only one who worries about accidentally hurting someone I love?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone worry about accidentally hurting someone they love?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to worry about accidentally hurting someone you love?

Is It Normal?

Why do I worry about accidentally hurting someone I love?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I keep having thoughts about accidentally hurting someone?▾
These thoughts often arise from a heightened sense of responsibility and deep affection for the person. Your mind might be running 'what-if' scenarios as a protective mechanism, even if they feel distressing.
What's the difference between a thought and an intention to harm?▾
A thought is a fleeting mental event, often involuntary, while an intention is a deliberate decision to act. Intrusive thoughts about harm are usually ego-dystonic, meaning they go against your core values and desires, unlike a true intention.
How can I stop worrying so much about hurting others?▾
Focusing less on the content of the thought and more on observing it without judgment can be helpful. Remind yourself that these are just thoughts and don't define your character or intentions.

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