Is it normal to worry about accidentally hurting someone you love?

Yes, it's very common to experience distressing thoughts about unintentionally harming loved ones. These fears often stem from a deep sense of care and responsibility, and they are typically just thoughts, not desires or predictions. Many people who care deeply about others find their minds generating these 'what if' scenarios.

Studies suggest that a significant portion of the population, potentially over 80%, experiences unwanted intrusive thoughts at some point in their lives, with many focusing on harm-related themes.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I keep having thoughts about accidentally harming someone?▾
These thoughts often arise because you care deeply about the person and want to protect them. Your mind might be testing worst-case scenarios as a way to prepare or prevent, even if the thoughts themselves are upsetting.
What if my thoughts about hurting someone mean I'm a bad person?▾
Having an unwanted thought about harming someone does not mean you are a bad person or that you would ever act on it. These are often involuntary mental 'blips' that are inconsistent with your true character and values, which is precisely why they cause distress.
How can I stop worrying about accidentally hurting someone I love?▾
Trying to forcefully stop these thoughts can sometimes make them stronger. Instead, try to notice the thought without judgment, remind yourself it's just a thought, and then gently redirect your attention to something else. Focusing on your actions and intentions, rather than the thoughts themselves, can be helpful.

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