Is it weird to adopt a more assertive persona at work?

Many professionals consider how they present themselves in the workplace. Strategically adjusting your communication style to be more direct and confident is a common and often effective approach to professional development. This isn't about being someone you're not, but rather about honing skills that can enhance your impact and influence in meetings and projects.

A 2019 study published in the Journal of Applied Psychology found that employees who demonstrate higher levels of assertiveness are perceived as more effective leaders by their peers.

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<h1>Am I the only one who feels fake adopting a more assertive persona at work?</h1>

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone adopt a more assertive persona at work?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to want to adopt a more assertive persona at work?

Is It Normal?

Why do I feel compelled to adopt a more assertive persona at work?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

How can I be more assertive without seeming aggressive?▾
Focus on clear, direct communication of your ideas and needs, using 'I' statements. Practice active listening and maintain a calm, steady tone. The goal is to express yourself effectively, not to dominate or confront.
What are common benefits of being more assertive in the office?▾
Increased assertiveness often leads to clearer expectations, better project outcomes, and a stronger voice in team decisions. It can also help prevent misunderstandings and improve overall team efficiency.
Will changing my approach make colleagues think I'm fake?▾
When you make a conscious effort to change your professional presentation, some colleagues might notice. However, if your actions remain consistent and your intentions are professional, most will likely see it as a positive development in your communication skills, not insincerity.

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