Why do I feel compelled to adopt a more assertive persona at work?

Many people find themselves wanting to appear more assertive professionally, often as a response to perceived challenges or a desire for greater influence. This desire frequently stems from observing others who seem to achieve more through direct communication, or from past experiences where a less assertive approach didn't yield desired outcomes. It's a natural inclination to adapt strategies that seem effective in the workplace.

Research from the Journal of Applied Psychology suggests that individuals who perceive a gap between their current communication style and their ideal professional image are more likely to attempt to

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Frequently Asked Questions

What makes someone want to act more assertive at work?▾
Often, the desire to act more assertively at work comes from a wish to be taken more seriously, to ensure ideas are heard, or to manage demanding situations more effectively. It can also stem from a belief that assertiveness is key to career progression.
Is it common to feel like you need to change your workplace persona?▾
Yes, it's very common. Many individuals adjust their approach and communication style in professional settings, often to align with perceived expectations, to enhance their effectiveness, or to better handle specific work challenges.
How does observing others influence my desire for assertiveness?▾
Observing colleagues who successfully advocate for themselves or lead discussions can strongly influence your own desire for assertiveness. Seeing their positive outcomes can make you wonder if a similar approach would benefit your own career and interactions.

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