Is it weird to feel disgusted by your own sexual fantasies?
Many people experience feelings of disgust or shame about their sexual fantasies, even when those fantasies are common. Our minds can conjure up all sorts of scenarios, and it's natural for some of these to feel unsettling or even contradictory to our conscious desires. These feelings don't necessarily reflect who you are or what you truly want in real life. It's a common human experience to have a wide range of thoughts, including those that might surprise or disturb us.
Research indicates that a significant number of individuals report experiencing intrusive or unwanted sexual thoughts, suggesting this is a widespread phenomenon.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I have sexual fantasies that I hate?▾
Sometimes our minds create fantasies that seem to contradict our real-life desires or values. This can be due to curiosity, past experiences, or even just random mental noise. Having a fantasy doesn't mean you endorse it or want to act on it.
Are my sexual fantasies normal if they bother me?▾
Yes, it's very normal to have fantasies that bother you. Many people experience a disconnect between their spontaneous thoughts and their conscious preferences. The fact that they bother you often shows your underlying values.
What does it mean if I'm ashamed of my fantasies?▾
Feeling shame about fantasies often stems from societal messages about what is 'acceptable' or 'normal' in sexuality. It can also come from a misunderstanding that thoughts equal actions or desires. Many people feel shame about their private thoughts, sexual or otherwise.
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