I don't know if this even counts as a confession, or if anyone else has ever felt this kind of... pressure, but I think I’m maybe doing something really stupid, or maybe just really irresponsible, and I can’t stop, and I feel like I'm going to explode. I’m a construction worker, and it’s good money, steady, you know? And I really do try to be responsible with it, for me and for my wife, and we’ve been trying to save up for a house, and that’s a huge deal for us, it means everything. But I also have this… other thing. This separate account, almost like a ghost account, that I put money into every month, sometimes a lot, sometimes not enough, and it's all for my little sister. She's at university, studying graphic design, and she's SO good, like, genuinely brilliant, and she’s got that fire, that creative drive, and I just… I can’t let her not pursue that, you know? It's expensive, though, really expensive, and I think maybe I underestimated just how much it would add up to, and now it's this huge chunk of our income, and my wife doesn't know the exact amount I'm putting in, not really, not the full picture of how much it's actually costing, and every time she talks about our house savings, or asks about the budget, I just… I kind of freeze up, and I get so angry at myself, but then also so angry at the situation, and I don't know who to be angry at, really, but it just builds and builds inside me, and I can’t tell her because then she'd be angry, and I don't know if she'd understand, or if she'd think I was just being foolish, and maybe I am.
And it’s not that I don’t want to support my sister, I really do, she deserves it more than anyone, and I feel like I'm the only one who truly gets her, who sees her potential, and I want to give her that chance, that freedom to create, because I never really had that for myself, not in the same way, not without so much compromise. But the secrecy is just eating at me, and it feels like this huge, heavy thing I'm carrying alone, and sometimes I think about what would happen if my wife found out the full extent of it, how much I’ve really been setting aside, and it just makes my stomach clench, and I feel this intense heat, and I just want to scream, and I just want to know if anyone else has ever had to make a choice like this, or felt like they were living this double life, just trying to do what they thought was right, but also knowing it's probably… not okay. Am I the only one who feels like they're constantly teetering on the edge of just completely messing everything up, all for someone else’s dream, and maybe a little bit for my own, too, just vicariously? Because I just don’t know what to do anymore.
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