Why do I envy friends who took bigger career risks?

Feeling envy when friends succeed, especially after taking bold career steps, often stems from a natural human tendency to compare ourselves to others. This emotion can be amplified by a sense of missed opportunity or a perceived gap between your current situation and where you might have been. It's often less about wishing ill upon your friends and more about a deeper reflection on your own choices and aspirations.

Research from the University of California, Berkeley, suggests that social comparison is a fundamental aspect of human psychology, influencing self-perception and motivation.

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Am I the Only One?

Does everyone envy friends who took bigger career risks?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to envy friends who took bigger career risks and found success?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to envy friends who took bigger career risks?

Is It Weird?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is it normal to regret career choices?▾
Yes, it's very common to experience regret about past career decisions, especially when observing the perceived success of others. Many people reflect on "what if" scenarios at various points in their professional lives.
How can I stop comparing my career to others?▾
Shifting your focus to your own progress and defining success on your own terms can help. Consciously appreciating your unique strengths and achievements, rather than external benchmarks, can reduce the urge to compare.
What if I feel stuck in my career?▾
Feeling stuck is a common experience, often prompting a desire for change or a re-evaluation of priorities. Exploring new skills, networking, or even considering a lateral move can sometimes help create new opportunities and a sense of forward momentum.

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