Why do I feel like everyone else has life figured out?

It's common to feel this way, especially when observing others' seemingly perfect lives online or in person. This feeling often stems from comparing our internal experiences and struggles with others' external presentations, which are usually curated highlights. We rarely see the messy parts of someone else's life, creating an illusion that they have everything under control.

Research suggests that frequent social media users are more likely to experience feelings of envy and the belief that others are happier or more successful.

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Am I the Only One?

Does everyone feel like others have life figured out?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to feel like everyone else has life figured out?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to feel like everyone else has life figured out?

Is It Weird?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I compare myself to others so much?▾
Comparing ourselves to others is a natural human tendency, but it becomes problematic when we consistently measure our perceived weaknesses against others' strengths. Social media often amplifies this by showcasing idealized versions of reality, making it easy to fall into comparison traps.
How can I stop feeling inadequate compared to others?▾
Shifting your focus to your own progress and unique path can help. Practice self-compassion and remember that everyone faces challenges, even if they don't show them. Limiting social media consumption and celebrating small personal victories can also be beneficial.
Is it normal to feel behind in life?▾
Yes, it's very normal to feel behind, especially in a culture that often emphasizes specific timelines for achievements like career milestones, relationships, or homeownership. Life paths are diverse, and there's no single correct timeline for personal development or success.

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