Am I the only one who avoids people who have things I want?
Many people find themselves instinctively creating distance from individuals who possess qualities, successes, or items they desire. This isn't an uncommon reaction, often stemming from feelings of inadequacy or envy that can feel uncomfortable to confront directly. It's a way some people try to manage difficult emotions without realizing the underlying cause.
Research from the University of California, Berkeley, suggests that envy is a universally experienced emotion, with studies indicating that nearly everyone experiences it at some point in their lives.
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Why do I feel jealous of friends' successes?▾
Feeling jealous of a friend's success can happen when you compare your own progress to theirs. It often highlights areas in your own life where you might feel unsatisfied or wish for more, leading to a sense of wanting what they have achieved.
How can I stop feeling envious of others?▾
To lessen feelings of envy, try focusing on your own path and accomplishments. Shifting your attention to personal goals and appreciating what you already have can help reduce the tendency to compare yourself to others.
Is it normal to feel bad when others succeed?▾
Yes, it can be quite normal to feel a pang of disappointment or even sadness when others succeed, especially if you're striving for similar outcomes. This reaction is a natural human emotion, though it can be managed by reframing your perspective.
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