Does everyone avoid people who have things they secretly want?
It's a very common human experience to feel a twinge of discomfort, or even a desire to distance yourself, from someone who possesses something you deeply wish you had. This isn't necessarily about malice; often, it's an unconscious way our minds react to feelings like envy or inadequacy. Many people find themselves doing this at some point, whether it's avoiding a successful friend or scrolling past someone's seemingly perfect life online.
Research indicates that nearly 75% of adults admit to experiencing feelings of envy at least once a month, often triggered by social comparisons.
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Why do I feel jealous of friends who succeed?▾
Feeling jealous of a friend's success is a natural, albeit uncomfortable, emotion. It often stems from comparing your own progress to theirs, or from a fear that their success highlights your perceived shortcomings. It doesn't mean you don't care about them, but rather that you're wrestling with your own aspirations and self-perception.
Is it normal to feel envy towards others?▾
Yes, feeling envy is a very normal human emotion. It's an instinctive response to perceiving that someone else has something desirable that you lack. While uncomfortable, experiencing envy doesn't make you a bad person; it's a signal that can sometimes point to your own unfulfilled desires or goals.
How can I stop comparing myself to others?▾
Reducing comparison often involves shifting focus back to your own path and progress. Concentrate on your personal goals and achievements, no matter how small. Limiting exposure to content or situations that trigger comparison, and practicing appreciation for what you already have, can also be very helpful.
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