Am I the only one who cancels plans because I feel unattractive or unhealthy?

It's common to feel hesitant about social situations when you're self-conscious about your appearance or health. Many people experience anxiety about how they might be perceived, leading them to withdraw from activities they might otherwise enjoy. This feeling isn't unusual, and it often stems from a fear of judgment or not meeting perceived standards.

Research from the Body Dysmorphic Disorder Foundation suggests that a significant percentage of individuals experience appearance-related anxiety that impacts their daily lives, including social inter

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Does everyone cancel plans because they feel unattractive?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to cancel plans because I feel insecure about my appearance or health?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to cancel plans because of how I feel about my appearance?

Is It Weird?

Why do I cancel plans because I feel unattractive or physically flawed?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I suddenly feel ugly before social events?▾
This sudden feeling often arises from increased self-scrutiny as an event approaches. The anticipation of being seen and potentially judged can amplify existing insecurities about your physical appearance, making perceived flaws seem much larger.
How can I stop letting body image issues control my social life?▾
Focusing on the activity itself and the people you'll be with, rather than solely on your appearance, can help. Gradually exposing yourself to social situations, even when you feel less than perfect, can also reduce the power these concerns have over your decisions.
Is it normal to worry about looking unhealthy in front of others?▾
Yes, it's quite normal. Concerns about looking unhealthy can stem from societal pressures, personal health anxieties, or a desire to project a certain image. This can lead to avoiding situations where you feel your health might be scrutinized.

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