Am I the only one who rethinks past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Many people find themselves looking back at their own choices when they witness a friend, colleague, or even a public figure achieve significant milestones. This natural comparison can trigger thoughts about different paths one could have taken, leading to a sense of 'what if' or regret. It's a common human response to evaluate our own standing relative to others, especially when success seems to be within reach.

Research from the University of California, Berkeley, suggests that over 60% of adults report experiencing regret about past decisions at least occasionally, often triggered by external comparisons.

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Does everyone rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I feel regret about old choices when I see others doing well?▾
Observing others' success can highlight perceived gaps in your own achievements or life circumstances. This often prompts a re-evaluation of past decisions, wondering if different choices could have led to similar outcomes for you.
Is it normal to compare my life to successful people?▾
Yes, it's very common to compare your life to others, especially those who appear successful. This tendency is part of how humans assess their own progress and standing, though it can sometimes lead to dissatisfaction.
How can I stop dwelling on past decisions when I see someone else's accomplishments?▾
Focusing on your own present actions and future goals can help. Shifting attention from what might have been to what you can still achieve, and appreciating your current circumstances, can lessen the pull of past regrets.

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