Is it weird to rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

It's a very common human tendency to compare our lives to others, especially when we see them achieving great things. This isn't about being envious, but rather a natural moment of reflection on our own paths and the choices we've made. It's simply how our minds often work when presented with different outcomes.

Research from the University of California suggests that nearly 80% of adults admit to comparing their achievements to others at least occasionally.

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Am I the only one who rethinks past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Is It Normal?

Why do I rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I feel regret about old choices after seeing someone succeed?▾
Seeing another person's success can act as a mirror, prompting us to evaluate our own circumstances. It's often less about their achievement and more about what it triggers in our own internal assessment of where we are versus where we thought we'd be.
How can I stop comparing my life to others?▾
Focusing on your own progress and defining success on your own terms can help. Instead of external comparisons, try to measure your current self against your past self, appreciating the unique path you've taken.
Is it healthy to dwell on past decisions and regrets?▾
Brief reflection on past decisions can be useful for learning, but extended dwelling can be counterproductive. Shifting your attention to what you can influence now, rather than what’s unchangeable, is generally more beneficial.

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