Why do I rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

It's common to reflect on your own life choices when observing another person's achievements. This often stems from social comparison, a natural human tendency to evaluate ourselves against others. Our brains are wired to notice disparities, and success in others can trigger a review of our own paths, especially if we perceive a significant difference in outcomes. This isn't about their success diminishing yours, but rather a moment of self-assessment.

Research from the University of Michigan suggests that up to 90% of adults engage in some form of social comparison, often triggering self-reflection on personal choices.

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Am I the only one who rethinks past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to rethink past decisions when seeing someone else's success?

Is It Weird?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is it normal to feel regret about past choices?▾
Yes, experiencing regret about past choices is a very common human emotion. It often arises when we reflect on different paths we could have taken, especially when comparing our current situation to an imagined alternative or someone else's visible success.
How can I stop comparing my life to others?▾
Minimizing social comparison involves focusing on your own progress and values. Practicing gratitude for what you have, setting personal goals independent of others, and limiting exposure to curated online portrayals of success can help shift your perspective.
What if I feel I 'settled' in my life choices?▾
Feeling like you 'settled' can be a difficult emotion. It often comes from a perception that you compromised on significant aspirations. It's helpful to consider the context of those decisions at the time and to identify what aspects of your current situation you can appreciate or actively change.

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