Am I the only one who sometimes lies to spare someone's feelings?
Many people find themselves in situations where a small untruth seems kinder than the harsh truth. This isn't about malicious deception, but rather a protective impulse to shield someone from unnecessary pain or discomfort. It often stems from a place of empathy, weighing the immediate impact of honesty against the potential for hurt feelings.
Research from the University of Massachusetts suggests that most adults tell an average of one or two white lies per day, often in social situations to maintain harmony.
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Is it always wrong to tell a white lie?▾
Whether a white lie is 'wrong' often depends on its intent and impact. If it prevents significant harm or distress with no negative consequences, many view it as a compassionate choice rather than a moral failing. The context truly matters.
What's the difference between a white lie and a harmful lie?▾
A white lie typically aims to protect feelings or avoid minor conflict, usually without personal gain or significant deception. A harmful lie, in contrast, often involves manipulation, significant deceit, or an intent to cause damage or gain an unfair advantage.
When should you tell the truth even if it hurts?▾
It's generally important to tell the truth when the information is crucial for someone's safety, well-being, or ability to make informed decisions. Also, if a lie would erode trust or prevent necessary action, honesty is usually the better path, even if difficult.
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