Why do I lie to spare someone's feelings?
Many people tell white lies to avoid causing distress or conflict. This often stems from a desire to maintain harmony in relationships and protect others from discomfort or hurt. It's a common social strategy used when the truth might be perceived as unnecessarily harsh or damaging, even if well-intentioned.
Research from the University of Massachusetts suggests that many people tell an average of one to two 'white lies' per day in social interactions.
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Is it always wrong to lie to spare someone's feelings?▾
The morality of a 'white lie' often depends on the specific situation and its impact. While honesty is generally valued, a small untruth meant to prevent significant, unnecessary pain might be viewed differently than a lie told for personal gain.
What are the long-term effects of telling white lies?▾
While individual white lies might seem harmless, a consistent pattern could erode trust over time if discovered. However, in many social contexts, minor untruths are an accepted part of polite interaction and don't typically have negative long-term effects.
How can I be more honest without hurting someone?▾
Practicing compassionate honesty involves choosing your words carefully, focusing on solutions rather than criticisms, and considering the timing and setting of your communication. Sometimes, it's about what you say, and just as much about how you say it.
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