Am I the only one who wonders if I'm making up attractions?
Many people question the authenticity of their feelings, especially when it comes to attractions that don't fit a familiar pattern. It's common to scrutinize new or evolving attractions, leading to doubts about whether they are "real" or imagined. These feelings are a natural part of exploring your own experiences and understanding your desires.
Research suggests that around 1 in 5 adults report a shift in their sexual attraction or orientation at some point in their lives, indicating fluidity is a common experience.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How can I tell if my attraction is genuine?▾
Genuine attraction often involves a consistent pull towards someone, even if it's subtle or different from past experiences. Pay attention to how you feel when you think about or interact with them, and if those feelings persist over time. It's less about a single moment and more about a developing pattern.
Why do I doubt my attractions so much?▾
Doubting your attractions can stem from various sources, including societal expectations, past experiences, or a lack of clear language for what you're feeling. When attractions don't align with what you've been taught or seen, it's natural to question their validity. Self-doubt can also be a common human experience, particularly when exploring new aspects of yourself.
Is it possible to develop new attractions later in life?▾
Absolutely. Human attractions and sexual orientations are fluid for many people and can evolve throughout life. It's very common for individuals to discover new types of attractions or shifts in their existing ones at any age. Experiences, personal growth, and new connections can all play a role in this unfolding.
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