Is it normal to wonder if you're making up attractions?
It's quite common to question the authenticity of your own feelings, especially when exploring your sexuality or intimate desires. Many people experience self-doubt and wonder if their attractions are 'real' or imagined, particularly when they don't fit conventional expectations. This questioning is a natural part of understanding yourself more deeply.
Research suggests that over 60% of individuals report experiencing self-doubt about their feelings or identity at some point when exploring their sexuality.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel like I'm faking my attraction to someone?▾
This feeling often arises from internal pressure or societal expectations about what attraction 'should' feel like. You might be comparing your experiences to others or doubting your own intuition, leading to a sense of inauthenticity.
Can I genuinely be attracted to someone if I keep doubting it?▾
Yes, genuine attraction can coexist with doubt. Feelings can be complex and sometimes contradictory. Doubting your attraction doesn't automatically mean it's not real; it often reflects a deeper exploration of your own desires and identity.
What's the difference between genuine attraction and wishful thinking?▾
Genuine attraction usually involves a spontaneous pull or interest, even if it's subtle, while wishful thinking might feel more like an intellectual desire for attraction to be present. Observing your natural reactions and sustained interest over time can help distinguish between the two.
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