Does everyone say yes to everything even when they're exhausted?

Feeling compelled to agree to every request, even when you're completely drained, is a very common experience. Many people find themselves in situations where they prioritize others' perceived needs over their own well-being. This often stems from a desire to be helpful or to avoid disappointing others, and it can be a difficult pattern to change.

Research from the University of California suggests that nearly 65% of adults report feeling overwhelmed by commitments at least once a week due to difficulty declining requests.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I always agree to things when I'm tired?▾
Often, agreeing to things when you're tired comes from a desire to maintain harmony or avoid conflict. It can feel easier in the moment to say yes than to explain why you can't, especially if you're worried about how others might react.
How can I stop overcommitting myself all the time?▾
To stop overcommitting, try pausing before you respond to a request. Give yourself a moment to consider your current energy levels and commitments. It can be helpful to practice saying, 'Let me check my schedule and get back to you,' giving you time to think without immediate pressure.
Is it bad to always put others' needs first?▾
While being considerate of others is a positive trait, consistently putting everyone else's needs first can lead to burnout and resentment. It's important to find a balance where you can support others without completely neglecting your own needs and energy.

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