Why do I keep saying yes to everything, even when I'm completely exhausted?

Many people find themselves agreeing to requests even when they're drained, often driven by a deep desire to be helpful or liked. This tendency can stem from a learned pattern of prioritizing others' needs over your own well-being, or a fear of disappointing people. It's a common response rooted in social dynamics and personal history, where saying no might feel difficult or even wrong.

Research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggests that individuals with a strong need for affiliation are more likely to agree to requests, even at personal cost.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is it hard for me to say no to people?▾
Difficulty saying no often comes from a desire to maintain harmony, avoid conflict, or a belief that saying no will lead to negative judgment. It can also be a habit developed over time to gain approval or feel valuable in relationships.
What happens when I always prioritize others' needs?▾
Consistently putting others' needs first can lead to significant energy depletion, feelings of resentment, and a sense of being overwhelmed. Over time, it can also make it harder to recognize and meet your own fundamental needs.
How can I start to decline requests more often?▾
Beginning to decline requests involves small steps, like pausing before answering, or offering an alternative if you can't commit. Practicing brief, clear responses without over-explaining can also be very helpful in changing this pattern.

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