Is it normal to avoid expressing sadness to your partner?
Many people find themselves holding back tears or difficult emotions from their partners. This often stems from a fear of being seen as weak, or a concern about burdening the person they care about. It's a very common human tendency to try and protect ourselves and our relationships by suppressing vulnerabilities.
Research from the University of California, Berkeley, suggests that men are often socialized to suppress expressions of sadness more than women, contributing to a reluctance to cry openly in relations
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Why do I feel ashamed to cry in front of my partner?▾
Feeling ashamed to cry with a partner often comes from societal pressures that link crying to weakness, or past experiences where showing emotion led to negative responses. It's a common feeling rooted in a desire to appear strong and capable.
What happens when you don't express sadness in a relationship?▾
When sadness isn't expressed, it can build up internally, leading to feelings of isolation or resentment. It might also prevent your partner from truly understanding your experiences and offering support when you need it most.
How can I get over the fear of crying in front of my partner?▾
Overcoming this fear often starts with small steps, like sharing a minor frustration or disappointment. Gradually, as you experience positive responses, it can become easier to open up about deeper sadness. Focusing on your partner's potential empathy can also help.
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