Am I the only one who constantly catches myself comparing my relationship to others?

It's common to find yourself looking at other couples and wondering how your own relationship measures up. This tendency often stems from seeing curated versions of others' lives, whether on social media or in real-life interactions. Many people experience these thoughts, and they often lead to quiet doubts about their own partnership.

Research indicates that approximately 60% of individuals report comparing their romantic relationships to those of others, often leading to feelings of inadequacy or dissatisfaction.

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Does everyone catch themselves comparing their relationship to others?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to catch yourself comparing your relationship to others?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to catch yourself comparing your relationship to others?

Is It Weird?

Why do I keep comparing my relationship to everyone else's?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I keep comparing my relationship to my friends' relationships?▾
Comparing your relationship to friends' often happens because you have more insight into their lives, even if it's still a partial view. You might see what seems like effortless happiness or specific milestones, which can make you question your own path.
Is it bad to compare my relationship to what I see on social media?▾
Comparing your relationship to social media portrayals can be misleading because those posts are typically highlights, not daily realities. It's easy to forget that everyone faces challenges behind the perfectly filtered images, creating an unrealistic standard.
How can I stop feeling like my relationship isn't good enough compared to others?▾
Focusing on the unique strengths and joys within your own partnership can help. Instead of looking outward, try to appreciate the specific qualities and shared experiences that make your relationship distinct and meaningful to you.

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