Does everyone catch themselves comparing their relationship to others?

It's a very common human tendency to look at other couples and wonder how your own relationship measures up. We often see only the curated highlights of other people's lives, not the everyday reality. This can naturally lead to moments of questioning or doubt about what you have, even when things are generally good.

Research from the University of Wisconsin suggests that over 60% of individuals admit to comparing their romantic relationship to those of others, particularly when exposed to social media.

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Am I the only one who constantly catches myself comparing my relationship to others?

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Is it normal to catch yourself comparing your relationship to others?

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Is it weird to catch yourself comparing your relationship to others?

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Why do I keep comparing my relationship to everyone else's?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I keep comparing my relationship to my friends'?▾
Comparing your relationship to friends' often stems from seeing their best moments on social media or in conversation. It's easy to forget that every couple faces private challenges, and what you observe is rarely the full picture.
Is comparing relationships a sign of dissatisfaction?▾
Not necessarily. While constant dissatisfaction might be a concern, occasional comparisons are a normal human reflex. They can sometimes highlight areas you might want to consider in your own relationship, but don't automatically mean something is wrong.
How can I stop comparing my partner to others?▾
Focus on appreciating the unique qualities of your own relationship and the strengths you share. Limiting exposure to highly curated online content can also help shift your perspective back to what truly matters in your connection.

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