Is it normal to catch yourself comparing your relationship to others?

Many people find themselves looking at other couples and wondering if their own relationship measures up. It's a very common human tendency to observe those around us, especially in areas as important as our partnerships. These comparisons often stem from natural curiosity or even a desire for connection, rather than a sign of something being wrong.

Research suggests that over half of adults admit to comparing their romantic relationship to others they know or see in media.

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Am I the only one who constantly catches myself comparing my relationship to others?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone catch themselves comparing their relationship to others?

Does Everyone?

Is it weird to catch yourself comparing your relationship to others?

Is It Weird?

Why do I keep comparing my relationship to everyone else's?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I keep comparing my relationship to what I see online?▾
Social media often presents a curated, idealized version of relationships, making it easy to feel like your own partnership falls short. What you see online is rarely the full picture, and it's easy to forget the everyday realities behind those perfect posts.
What does it mean if I constantly compare my partner to others' partners?▾
Constantly comparing your partner might signal underlying insecurities or unmet expectations within your relationship. It could also be a habit developed from observing others, rather than a definitive statement about your partner's qualities.
How can I stop comparing my relationship and focus on what we have?▾
Focus on appreciating the unique strengths and joys within your own relationship. Shifting your attention to gratitude for your partner and the experiences you share can help redirect those comparative thoughts.

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